DIVORCE AND REMARRIAGE - BELIEF 4:
MANY GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE & REMARRIAGE
Variety of Bible-based beliefs:
We are faced with a dilemma:
|Various Christian groups -- conservative Protestants, liberal
Protestants and Roman Catholics have reached different beliefs about under
which conditions the Bible permits divorce, if any.|
|Even those groups who interpret the Bible as permitting divorce may or may not allow remarriage.
|Each of the authors and webmasters who has written on these topics
seem to conclude that their belief alone is the correct interpretation of
the Bible. |
The main positions are:
- Neither divorce nor remarriage are allowed. (A
conservative Protestant view)
- Divorce is OK, but remarriage is forbidden. (A second conservative Protestant
- Divorce is OK; remarriage is OK, in cases of adultery or desertion; (A conservative/mainline Protestant view)
- Divorce is OK for many reasons; remarriage is OK --
described below . (A mainline/liberal
- Divorce is impossible, unless the marriage never existed. (Roman
- Divorce is OK in cases of marriage breakdown; remarriage is OK.
(Religious liberal and secular view.)
This essay describes the fourth position: that the Bible allows
many grounds for divorce and allows remarriage.
This view has been well argued by author Larry Richards. 1,2
He holds the positions that:
|Very restrictive views -- those prohibiting all
divorces, and those which allow divorces but not remarriage -- are based on
the invalid belief that marriage is indissoluble, except after the death of one
spouse. The Bible does not teach this.|
|Divorces and subsequent remarriage are acceptable responses to a
failed marriage, on grounds of adultery, desertion and many other
Richards asks that:
"If God treated human frailty so
graciously in the age of the Law and permitted not only divorce but also
subsequent remarriage, how can we, in this age of grace, treat divorce and
remarriage so legalistically"? 3
"No Christian must remain within a marriage to
a murder, thief, liar, slanderer, [or an] abusive, hostile, violent spouse
(or any [spouse whose] ...behavior ... is criminal or immoral)..."
Key passages from the Hebrew Scriptures:
The Hebrew Scriptures (Old Testament) includes the following passages
about divorce and remarriage. The explanations of these passages is almost
identical to those found in our essay on
divorce/remarriage for adultery and desertion:
|Genesis 2:24: Leaving and cleaving: "Therefore shall a man leave
his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they
shall be one flesh." The key words in this verse are "leave,"
"cleave," and "one flesh." This
describes the typical sequence of events leading to a normal heterosexual
marriage. The term "one flesh" has sometimes been used to imply
that marriage is forever. However, Paul uses the same phrase in
Corinthians 6:6 to describe a man engaging in sexual activity with a
prostitute -- hardly an indissoluble relationship. We can conclude that
Genesis 2 is silent on the matter of divorce and subsequent remarriage.
|Deuteronomy 24:1-2 Divorce and remarriage: "When a man hath taken a wife, and
married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes,
because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a
bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his
house. And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be
another man's wife." Divorce was a
practice that had been imported by the ancient Hebrews from adjacent
cultures, where it was a universal custom, along with slavery and polygyny. This passage allowed a man to divorce his wife
(or wives). She was then free to remarry another man. However, it did not allow a woman to divorce her husband.
It is unclear what the term "uncleanness" means. Presumably it does not
mean that she had committed adultery, because then she would have been
executed by stoning.|
The passage does not approve of divorce. It remains an unfortunate
for the couple involved. God's ideal pattern for marriage is that it be
permanent. If God approves of an individual divorce, it is
only because it is the least-worse option to a couple whose marriage has
|Ezra 9:1-2: Religious intolerance -- requiring couples in
mixed-marriages to divorce: "...The people of Israel, and the
priests, and the Levites, have not separated themselves from the people of
the lands, doing according to their abominations, even of the Canaanites,
the Hittites, the Perizzites, the Jebusites, the Ammonites, the Moabites,
the Egyptians, and the Amorites. For they have taken of their daughters for themselves, and for their
sons: so that the holy seed have mingled themselves with the people of
those lands: yea, the hand of the princes and rulers hath been chief in
this trespass." Ezra was a scribe who had led a small group of Jews
from exile in Babylon back to Jerusalem. He found that many Jews had
entered into inter-faith marriages with women from nearby Pagan countries.
He felt that if these marriages continued, the Jewish people would quickly lose their national identity and start
to worship other Gods. He ordered the marriages terminated. It is probable
that the Hebrew men remarried within their religion and remarried. Otherwise, they would
have no additional children to help restore the Jewish national identity.|
|Malachi 2:10: Religious intolerance -- requiring couples in
mixed-marriages to separate: "Judah hath dealt treacherously, and
an abomination is committed in Israel and in Jerusalem; for Judah hath
profaned the holiness of the LORD which he loved, and hath married the
daughter of a strange god." Malachi is faced with the same problem as
Ezra, described above. Jewish males were marrying foreign women who
followed different religions. "Daughter of a strange god" refers to
a foreign woman who worshiped a Pagan deity or deities rather than Yahweh.
In Verse 12, he predicted that God would "cut off" (that is,
murder) any man who remained in a mixed marriage. Again, it was probable
that the Hebrew men remarried women within their faith.|
|Malachi 2:14-16: Divorce is treacherous behavior: "... the LORD hath been witness between thee
and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet
is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant....let none deal
treacherously against the wife of his youth. For the LORD, the God of
Israel, saith that he hateth putting away..." Malachi is
condemning Hebrew men for abandoning their wives after many years of
loyal marriage, presumably so that he could marry a young, more attractive woman. Malaci quotes God as saying that he hates
putting away one's wife (i.e. divorce). This is the only place in the Hebrew
Scriptures where God condemns divorce. God "was speaking of divorces
motivated by lust, divorces that involved abandonment of women who had
been faithful, loving partners though years of married life."
4 He was not referring to divorce generally.|
Key passages from the Christian Scriptures:
The Hebrew Scriptures (Old Testament) includes the following passages
relating to divorce and remarriage. The explanations of these passages is
almost identical to those found in our essay on
divorce/remarriage for adultery and desertion:
|Matthew 5:31-32: Divorce allowed, but remarriage often involves
hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a
writing of divorcement. But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away
his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit
adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth
adultery." This passage implies that if a man divorces his wife, that
she and her next husband will commit adultery. Her original husband will
be partly responsible for the adultery. However, if the woman had been
guilty of fornication, then no adultery would be involved in the divorce
or remarriage. And of course, if the wife does not remarry, then no
adultery would be involved either. |
|Matthew 19:3-9: Divorce allowed, but remarriage often involves
adultery: "The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and
saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every
cause? And he answered...Have ye not read, that he which made
them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause
shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and
they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one
flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of
divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the
hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the
beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his
wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth
adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery." The Pharisees were challenging Jesus'
beliefs about divorce. They sat on ecclesiastical
courts and answered questions of law. They decided who could divorce
and who could not. They asked him to interpret the passage in Deuteronomy 24:1-2
which allowed a husband to divorce his wife if he "found some
uncleanness in her." Jesus, addressing the Pharisees, responded: "What therefore God
hath joined together, let not man put asunder." This verse is
often misinterpreted. Jesus was not implying that all marriages were
indissoluble. What Jesus was actually saying was that the
Pharisees were "not competent to serve as judges on the issue of
divorce." 5 As Deuteronomy 24 says, it is the couple
themselves, and not a court, who are to decide whether a divorce is to be
implemented. If they decided to divorce, the husband wrote out a bill
of divorce. He gave it to his wife and she left. By extension, today's Christian
clergy have no authority to "stand in judgment over the dissolution of
a marriage than did the Pharasees." 6|
marriages cannot live up to God's ideal of a permanent, loving marriage. Because humans are not perfect, God
included provision for divorce in the Mosaic Law. In Matthew 5:18 and Luke
16:17, Jesus said that the Law was still in place. Not "...one jot or
one tittle shall...pass from the law..."
Jesus concludes his speech with a repeat of Matthew 5:31-32. Again, there
is no problem for a person who divorces and remains single. However, a man
who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery. If his
wife marries again, her new husband also commits adultery. However, no
adultery results if the woman had been guilty of fornication.
|Mark 10:2-12: Divorce OK, but remarriage involves adultery: "And the
Pharisees came to him, and asked him, Is it lawful for a man to put away
his wife? tempting him. And he answered and said unto them, What did Moses
command you? And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement,
and to put her away. And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the
hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept. But from the beginning
of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man
leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; And they twain shall
be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What
therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. And in the
house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. And he saith unto
them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth
adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be
married to another, she committeth adultery." This passage refers
to the same incident as was described in Matthew 19. However, this time,
Jesus states that remarriage always involves adultery on the part of the
ex-wife and her new husband. The grounds for divorce are immaterial.|
|Luke 16:18: Divorce OK, but remarriage involves adultery: "Whosoever putteth
away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever
marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery."
This appears to be a third version of the same incident with the
Pharisees. Here, divorce is not condemned. Jesus again links adultery to the
act of remarriage. |
|1 Corinthians 7:10-12: Ideal for separated couples: "And unto
the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart
from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be
reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
Paul wrote this passage in response to questions raised by the church at
Corinth about divorce and remarriage. He is describing God's concept for
marriage: that it is life-long. But since humans are not perfect, some
will not be able to attain this ideal.|
|1 Corinthians 7:10-15: Special case where an unbeliever wants a
divorce: "But to the rest speak I, not the
Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to
dwell with him, let him not put her away. And the woman which hath an
husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let
her not leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife,
and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your
children unclean; but now are they holy. But if the unbelieving depart,
let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases:
but God hath called us to peace." This is a continuation of the above
passage. It covers the situation where a believer is married to a
non-Christian, and the non-Christian insists on a divorce. Paul
writes that if a Christian
is deserted, that they are no longer bound by the marriage vows. They are
unmarried and free to remarry in the future. |
The message of the Bible is consistent:
Genesis 2:24 does not preclude divorce and remarriage.
No passage in the Bible directly states that marriage is permanent.
Divorce and remarriage was permitted in the
Law that God gave to Moses.
Jesus later acknowledged the unchangeable nature of the Mosaic
Ezra and Malachi ordered couples in inter-faith
marriages to divorce. This might have been because their marriages were viewed
as illicit. There is nothing in the text to indicate that the Hebrew men were
forbidden to remarry.
Jesus answer to the Pharisees, quoted in Matthew and Mark: "What therefore
God hath joined together, let not man put asunder" means that the
Pharisees had no jurisdiction in matters of divorce. Only the couple, alone,
could decide whether to terminate their marriage.
God's goal for marriage is permanence. All couples should aim
for this goal. However some cannot attain it. For them, divorce and subsequent
remarriage -- though regrettable -- is permissible and is often the least worse
Paul instructed the members of the church at Corinth that the
ideal goal for a separated or divorced couple are to seek
reconciliation or to remain celibate. However, a divorce is permissible in the
case of desertion. He says nothing about remarriage. But from the rest of the
Bible one can assume that remarriage was permitted after desertion.
What about the adultery factor at remarriage?
As mentioned above, God's goal for marriage is permanence. All
couples should aim for this goal. However some cannot attain it. Larry Richards
writes: "Divorce...reveals human failure. In view of God's ultimate standard
for us, divorce, while permissible, is still sin. And remarriage, while
permissible, involves an act which measured against the ideal must be
acknowledged as adultery....since we cannot be sure what porneia [in Matthew
19:3-9] involves, it is best to affirm that any divorce involves
sin. And that any remarriage involves an act of adultery." 7
Although the act of consummating a second marriage generally involves
adultery, remarriage itself is not an adulterous state. If it were considered to be
adulterous in the Hebrew Scriptures, then the couple would be executed by
stoning. Yet the Hebrew Scriptures indicate that couples were free to divorce
and remarry. "In no place does God prescribe separation for those who have
remarried." 8 Adultery is thus only associated with the
initial act of sexual intercourse. It must be confessed to God as a sin.
Subsequent "sexual relations once again take on the holy and undefiled
character of any valid marriage." 8
Interpreting the Bible for today's society:
Couples should aim for a permanent marriage, until death do them
part. However, humans are not perfect. Divorce and subsequent remarriage may be the least worse
option in those instances where
marriage turns toxic. Divorce and remarriage generally involves a single act of adultery. However, that can be forgiven.
"...God understands our frailty; he does forgive, even the sin of divorce."
Marital separation is another option that is open to couples.
- Larry Richards, "Remarriage: A Healing Gift from God," Word
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- Larry Richards, "Divorce & Remarriage under a Variety of
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- Ibid, Page 223.
- Ibid, Page 218.
- Ibid, Page 225.
- Ibid, Page 226.
- Ibid, Page 233.
- Ibid, Page 236.
- Ibid, Page 237.
- George R. Ewald, "Jesus and Divorce: A Biblical Guide for
Ministry to Divorced Persons," Herald Press, (1991).
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