For children, teens, parents,
teachers, and the general
In our opinion, the single most important book for gays, lesbians and bisexuals:
By the time that children reach puberty, they have probably heard many thousands of slurs, homophobic jokes, and hate statements directed at a sexual minorities. Unless these negative influences are actively combatted at home, church, school, etc. many kids will grow up believing that gays are sick, unnatural, disordered, majorly sinfull, and abnormal. Adolescents have absorbed society's homophobia. When an adolescent discovers that they are lesbian, gay or bisexual, these negative emotions generally become converted into feelings of shame. In their book: "Coming out of Shame", authors Gershen Kaufman and Lev Raphael have shown how shame:
"... powerfully shapes each individual's development of self-esteem, identity, and intimacy -- three areas in which gay men and lesbians have been extremely vulnerable ... [They] have internalized shame, resulting in self-loathing and destructive behaviors."
In this book, the authors show how to overcome shame and achieve positive self-esteem, create a positive gay identity, and develope intimate partnerships.
Mary V. Borhek, "Coming Out to Parents : A Two-Way Survival Guide
for Lesbians and Gay Men and Their Parents," Pilgrim Press, (1993).
"At the heart of this memoir lies a true epiphany: the author's
sudden, galvanizing awareness of the suicidal consequences of
homophobia. It is a chilling moment, and it is described with a writer's
eloquence and a mother's rage. (New Yorker review)
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Jimmy Creech, "Adam's Gift: A Memoir of a Pastor’s Calling to Defy the Church’s Persecution of Lesbians and Gay," Duke University Press Books, (2011-MAR-11). Read a book review and/or order. From Amazon.com's product description:
"Rev. Creech ... determined that the church was mistaken, that scriptural translations and interpretations had been botched and dangerously distorted. As a Christian, Creech came to believe that discriminating against lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people was morally wrong. This understanding compelled him to perform same-gender commitment ceremonies, which conflicted with church directives. Creech was tried twice by The United Methodist Church, and, after the second trial, his ordination credentials were revoked. Adam’s Gift is a moving story and an important chapter in the unfinished struggle for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender civil and human rights."