RESOLVING PEOPLE'S CONFLICTING BELIEFS ABOUT HOMOSEXUALITY
& BISEXUALITY
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Overview:
Unless you have been living in a cave somewhere, completely isolated from the media,
you will realize that North Americans hold conflicting beliefs about gays, lesbians,
and bisexuals.
Should they be given the same rights as heterosexuals?
Should same-sex marriages be allowed?
If they are permitted to marry, will it harm existing and future
opposite-sex marriages?
Is their behavior sinful and inherently disordered, or are
homosexual and bisexual orientations normal and natural for a minority
of adults?
Is homosexuality and bisexuality a chosen lifestyle, or is it
predetermined by one's genes and perhaps one's early childhood
environment?
Should the children of same-sex parents be given the same
protections and benefits as those of opposite-sex parents?
The list goes on.
No consensus seems possible at this time. This conflict is distressing
individuals. It is destabilizing friendships, marriages, religious
denominations, and even American and Canadian societies as a whole.
The essays in this section discuss the nature of the conflicts, and offer
information that we hope will be helpful in understanding the variety of belief
systems about homosexuality.
In our experience, debate is rarely useful. It tends to raise emotions and to
harden opinions. Dialogue is often much more useful. In dialogue, the
participants suppress their desire to convince the other person that they are
right. The goal is to understand the other person(s) beliefs and on what bases
they are held. Dialogue rarely leads to a consensus. However, it often results
in all participants appreciating of the other person(s) integrity, character,
intelligence, and thoughtfulness. Ultimately, we will probably have to find some
way in which we can live in peace with diverse opinions.