IS SAME-SEX MARRIAGE A GOOD OR BAD IDEA?
OPPOSITION TO SAME-SEX MARRIAGE
(SSM) ON A MUSLIM WEB SITE

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A "Let's Talk" op-ed piece on Aljazeera Magazine:
Sheikha Sajida of Aljazeera.com posted an op-ed piece about
same-sex marriage
on 2006-OCT-26. "Tom from U.S." sent her an Email noting that a
court in New Jersey had just ruled that same-sex couples
were entitled to the same rights, privileges and obligations of marriage
that have long been enjoyed only by opposite-sex couples. He asked why SSM is
still banned in Muslim countries. His note ended, stating that homosexuals:
"... should be respected, as well as their needs. It only shows
the lack; or I’d rather say the absence of tolerance in those states. God
bless America!"
Her column is particularly interesting because it demonstrates the agreement
between conservative Christians and Muslims, and the
contrasting beliefs held by liberal Christians, liberal Muslims and secularists.

Sajida's main points:
She wrote that SSM and homosexual behavior are prohibited in Islam and thus
is banned in Arab and Muslim states because they:
 | Would have a "devastating effect and chaos" on society |
 | SSM is "reversal of the natural order." |
 | SSM is a moral disorder. |
 | God established limits on humans which SSM would violate. |
 | SSM is not a legal right. |
 | Homosexuality is a bad habit. |
 | Like alcohol or other forms of drug addiction, homosexuality starts with
an experimental experience and quickly develops into an addiction. |
 | All religions in the world prohibit homosexual behavior. |
She cites the Quran,
7:80-1
"And Lot! (Remember) when he said unto his folk: Will ye commit
abomination such as no creature ever did before you? Lo! ye come with lust
unto men instead of women. Nay, but ye are wanton folk."
She also cites three of the Bible's "clobber passages:"
 | Genesis 19:4-5: This is the story of the destruction of Sodom and
Gomorrah. Religious conservatives generally interpret this chapter as
referring to homosexual desires of the entire male population of the two
cities. Religious liberals and secularists generally interpret the citizen
of Sodom's crime as attempted homosexual rape and lack of caring for
orphans, widows, strangers, and others. Rape is not common in either SSM or
opposite-sex marriage. |
 | Leviticus 18:22: This prohibits anal sex between two males.
Conservative generally interpret this verse as referring to all forms of sex
between either two men or two women. Liberals frequently interpret the verse
as applying only to male Jews who engaged in same-sex ritual sexual behavior
in Pagan temples. |
 | Leviticus 20:13: This is essentially identical to the other
Leviticus verse, except that the execution of both parties is mandated. |
She quotes an Amicus Curia (court brief) written by
Hawaii's Future Today (HFT) in opposition to SSM. They described SSM as: "a
radical reform in the basic institution of marriage, jettisoning long-recognized
cultural values and drastically redefining the fundamental structure of our
society..."
She concludes:
"I thank god [sic] we don’t have that type of freedom in the Middle East,
if you consider allowing men marry each other and women become couples a
form of 'freedom'."

Opposing beliefs:
Sheikha Sajida was writing from a traditional Muslim viewpoint, interpreting
the Qur'an literally. The views that she expressed would probably agree with
most religious and social conservatives. However, many religious liberals and
secularists would disagree with her statements:
 | The Netherlands, Belgium, Spain, Canada, and South Africa have legalized same-sex
marriage. Much of Europe and three states in the U.S. have given loving,
committed same-sex couples the same rights as have long been enjoyed by
opposite-sex couples. None of these states and countries have reported "devastating effect and chaos."
|
 | Opposite-sex marriage is desired by many adults. SSM is desired by many
homosexuals and bisexuals. Professional mental health associations have
determined that heterosexuality, homosexuality, and bisexuality are three
normal and natural sexual orientations. Homosexuality and bisexuality is
part of the "natural order," and is found in humans, all other mammals, and
many other animal species. |
 | Religious conservatives definitely believe that homosexuality and SSM is a moral disorder.
Most people agree that all forms of sexual behavior can be misused and thus
sinful. However most gays, lesbians, homosexuals, professional associations,
religious liberals, secularists, and others regard all three sexually
orientations as themselves morally neutral. |
 | Sajida believes that God established limits on human behavior which SSM would violate.
However, various faith groups have different interpretations about what
those limits are. A growing number of people believe that all loving,
committed couples should be able to obtain marriage rights, obligations, and
privileges for their own piece of mind, for their protection, and for the
protection of their children. |
 | SSM is, in fact, a legal right in a growing number of countries and
jurisdictions. |
 | Religious conservatives often regard homosexuality as chosen,
changeable, abnormal, unnatural behavior to which people can become
addicted. Many believe it is caused by childhood abuse or poor parenting,
But child psychologists can predict with excellent accuracy which pre-schoolers
will grow up to be homosexual. Gays, lesbians, religious liberals and others
generally regard homosexuality as unchosen, fixed, normal, natural
orientation caused by a person's genes and/or an environmental trigger.
Evidence seems to indicate it is set up by a person's genes and triggered by
something in the environment. |
 | In fact, all religions in the world do not prohibit homosexual behavior.
The teachings of faith groups are in a state of flux and trending towards
acceptance of homosexuality as normal and natural for a minority of adults. |

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Readers' comments:
These replies are apparently from individuals of various organized religions,
and perhaps secularists. They were attached to the "Let's Talk" op-ed
piece We have corrected some grammar, spelling, etc in their postings. Some of
the responses are a little difficult to read because the Aljazeera Magazine
has filters in place that censor incoming messages. The filters remove the
letters "sex" from same-sex marriage and homosexual, for example.
 | Mohammed from Nigeria: "America is the
Devil country. ... the U.S. has no morality.
Anybody who proclaims to be in Islam is under
Shariah [law]'. A Muslim nation is not democratic nor secular. A gay
[person] is outside [of] Islam and not within the fold of Islam. Gay is
totally condemned in the Qur'an and Hadith and should be punishable by
stoning. No apology for this." |
 | George from India: "Homosexual
behavior is ..."against the natural order. I guess it boils down to
people who fear God and people who don't (I guess they don't believe in
God). The Holy Bible says that 'The fool sayeth in his heart, "there is
no God'." |
 | Michael from Australia: "In Iran and a lot of other M.E countries
you'll get hanged or stoned for being a homosexual. I have nothing against
gay people, what they do is their own business. But they are also human
beings and deserve the same rights as everyone else. This is what separates
the West from M.E countries: human rights. God Bless America, God Save the
Queen and thank Christ for Australia." |
 | Reason from Colorado: "There have been many studies that have
found biological components about the people that are gay. There are also
animals that are gay. Are you saying that the animals made the choice the
choice to be gay? Just because you don't understand the biochemistry behind
something does not mean that it is not true. You have the guts to say
scientifically speaking that being gay is just a habit. You really have no
idea what you are talking about. Please try to do a little bit of research
before you say such silly things. If it was not biological then why are
there gay animals?" |
 | Space people from Milky Way: "Same sex marriage is undesirable
because it is nasty, unclean and against nature. That is why people need to
watch and stay away from that alki, dope and being around people with bad
behavior. These things can influence the youth and lead people into
abominable kinky things. These things are mind altering." |
 | Farouq from UK: "Same[-sex] marriages are banned in most
countries because it is against human nature. It is immoral. Now it's same
marriage. Tomorrow it will be marrying animals like they do in some western
countries. Get a grip, you disgusting people." |
 | Brendon from USA: "Why does God, either Christian or Muslim or
whatever, make people gay if it is so evil? it isn't a choice these people
make. they are born this way and are definitely different. The human body is
very complex and to say that someone is morally wrong because of it is
INTOLERANT. I'm not really a fan of homos but I'm less a fan of religion.
RELIGION... THE GLOBAL DIVIDER." |
 | Faz from UAE: "... every religion is against sodomy and Gayism.
If you have forgotten Christianity go back and read the Bible and stop
acting like a hypocrite." |
 | Miss from UK: "Live and let live! Religion teaches intolerance
when at the same time tells people to turn the other cheek. If 2 people love
each other how is it harming me?? There are so many heterosexual couples who
are together and don't love each over. This creates a bad environment and a
bad home life for their children." |
 | Peter from Norway: "Homosexuality, like most other traits, is
[caused by] a MIX of genes and environment, although we don't know how much
of each for every case. This is basic genetics. The same goes for alcoholism
and other "bad habits", since you mentioned that. ... You also say that
homosexuality is a reversal of the natural order, which I think is plain
wrong. In nature there are hardly any patterns without exceptions. You can't
say that things with a higher concentration is more natural. What about
people who are infertile/sterile? Are they a reversal of the natural order
as well? And should they not have sexual intercourse, since it will not lead
to procreation in their case?" |
 | Dhudi from USA: "SURA IV: 21. 'And if two (men) of you commit it,
then hurt them both; but if they turn again and amend, leave them alone,
verily, G-d is easily turned, compassionate.' It appears to be ok for
men to sleep together according to the Book, as long as they don’t do it
again and again." |
 | Lore from Belgium: "I don't agree with your statements because
I'm bisexual and I'm perfectly happy the way I am. Homosexuality is
something you are born with and I believe the middle east countries should
respect those people were are the same like everyone else. In your country
[there] are gay people to but they are afraid to say it because of your
religion and your system." |
 | Assaf from USA: "I think I need to remind people that Marriage is
a HUMAN INVENTION developed by people for people and not a natural instinct.
... Because marriage is a human invention and not written in our genes it
is, by definition, a flexible term that can change. I don't see why two
people who love each other can't marry." |
 | Abu Abdur-Rahman from USA: "... this issue of same marriage is
just a sign of the times. i agree one hundred and fifty percent with Sheikha
Sajida. Same[-sex] marriage is wrong morally and even within the major
religions is deemed as wrong. Fear god. Fear god. Fear god. As if judgment
is not a reality." |
 | SAB from Canada: "The secular West chooses to accept their
...[homosexuals] while the Middle east chooses to kill theirs. No, it is not
completely Genetic in nature but a combination of genetic predisposition,
biological development and environment. But it is natural. Whether you think
that we as thinking humans, must fight these urges, or whether doing so is
living a lie is up to you. But you can't sit there and deny its existence or
call it evil or even good. It just is." |
 | Commoner from Banladesh: "A tiger goes for tigress and Elephant
goes for elephant and so on and so forth. ... Then why do men go for men ?
It's shameful and bestial as well. It is their only desire in life and they
want to enjoy it in a sadistic way. I am not surprised at the comments of
the people of west supporting the bestial act since it is in their blood as
their women folk have also opted towards lesbianism contesting to be equal
with men folk. What a unholy contest dragging the society to total
destruction and turn beasts ? Shame on the proponent[s] of the same sex
marriage." |

References:
- Sheikha Sajida, "Gay marriage is prohibited in Islam & Christianity!," Lets
Talk, 2006-OCT-26, at:
http://www.aljazeera.com/

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Copyright © 2006 by Ontario Consultants on Religious
Tolerance
Originally written: 2006-NOV-03
Latest update: 2006-NOV-16
Author: B.A. Robinson

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