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Beliefs of conservative Christians

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Core beliefs of conservative Christians:
Conservative Christians generally believe in the
inerrancy of the Bible; i.e. that the entire Bible is without error,
when it deals with spiritual, theological, historical, scientific and other
matters. Further, they believe that all of the guidance that one needs to answer
the challenges of life are contained in the Bible. This concept of the Bible
naturally leads to beliefs which are at variance to the findings
of most social and physical scientists. For example, many conservative
Christians believe that:
Many conservative Christians believe that homosexuality is a chosen
lifestyle, an unnatural and deviant behavior, and changeable. In this, they
differ from mental health therapists and human sexuality researchers, who look
upon homosexuality as a fixed, non-chosen orientation, that is natural and
normal for a minority of humans.
Conservatives also generally believe that homosexual behavior is hated by God and
condemned by the Bible. From these core beliefs, many conclude that:
 | Granting gays and lesbians the same rights that heterosexuals already enjoy would
be dangerous to society. |
 | Same-sex marriage and civil unions represent a profound threat to
heterosexual marriages and the institution of the family. |
 | Children would be harmed if they grew up in gay or lesbians families:
 | Children in a gay household would grow up without a mother figure. |
 | Children in a lesbian household would grow up without a father
figure. |
 | Children are at risk because they are exposed to the "homosexual
lifestyle." |
 | Children are more likely to grow up homosexual. |
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Beliefs of "Focus on the Family":
Focus on the Family, a Fundamentalist Christian group in Colorado. They
are one of the leading
organizations which opposes equal rights for gays and lesbians. In their book on homosexuality, they discuss "Homosexuality and the Family" from an Evangelical
Christian perspective. 1 They make a number of assertions:
 | The legal and financial costs to society of heterosexual marriage are balanced by "social
benefits produced by successful marriages and parenting." Homosexual marriages
would bring the same costs to society, but would have no balancing benefits. |
 | The best parents for raising children consists of a father and a mother. |
 | Legalizing same-sex marriages will weaken the traditional heterosexual marriage. |
 | Granting the right of adoption to homosexuals would be a new right - an act of social
experimentation which may injure children. |
 | Florida and New Hampshire have laws forbidding adoption by homosexuals; Arkansas,
Missouri, North Dakota and Virginia have legal precedences which found that gays and
lesbians are automatically unfit as parents. California, Minnesota, New York and New
Jersey have laws or regulations which permit homosexual adoption. |
 | They cite two stories as justification for banning gay and lesbian
adoptions.
 | A young woman was subjected to ridicule by homophobic people in the
community because she was raised by two same-sex parents. |
 | A second woman who was raised by two lesbian parents felt that, as
an adult, she
did not know how to relate to a man. |
|
 | It is possible to imagine a scenario in which a child would be better off raised by a
homosexual couple rather than being raised with an abusive parent or in a series of foster
homes. |
 | There is no evidence to show that gay parents can be as successful in raising children
as heterosexual parents. |
 | The "psychological dynamics at the root of homosexual desire, as well as the
medical risks which accompany homosexual behavior" are strong reasons to forbid
adoption by gays and lesbians. |
 | Allowing homosexual adoption brings no obvious benefit and exposes children to damage;
it should not be allowed. |
 | In a divorce involving a homosexual parent, the heterosexual parent should generally be
granted custody. "...the granting of adoption or custody rights to homosexual
parents must...be a last resort." |
 | Placing children with homosexual foster parents puts them in "potentially
harmful environments" They adults may treat the child as a temporary object of
pleasure" |
 | Lesbians can only become pregnant through artificial insemination or by heterosexual
intercourse, which would not be a natural procedure for her. |
 | Lesbians desire a sexual partnership with another woman. But that union cannot by itself
cause procreation. Pregnancy within a lesbian relationship "while effecting no
clear benefit, does have the potential for a great deal of harm."
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 | Artificial insemination of lesbians should not be permitted. |

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Beliefs of "Family Research Council":
The Family Research Council is a Fundamentalist Christian organization
which "champions [heterosexual] marriage and family as
the foundation of civilization, the seedbed of virtue, and the wellspring of
society. We shape public debate and formulate public policy that values human
life and upholds the institutions of [heterosexual] marriage and the family.
Believing that God is the author of life, liberty, and the family, we promote
the Judeo-Christian worldview as the basis for a just, free, and stable society."
5 One of their most active causes is to oppose equal rights
and protections for gays and lesbians, including the right to marry and adopt.
The Council responded to the American Academy of
Pediatricians claim that there is "no existing data to
support the widely held belief that there are negative
outcomes [for children raised by gay parents] "...denying legal status through adoption ...
prevents these children from enjoying the psychological and
legal security that comes from having two willing, capable,
and loving parents."
7,8
Commenting on this report, Ken Connor, president of the Family Research
Council said that to:
"intentionally deprive a child of either a mother or a
father is unconscionable....the sad fact is
that promiscuity, domestic violence, and other problems
endemic to the homosexual lifestyle make these relationships
inherently unstable, and thus unsuitable for the raising of
children."
Timothy Dailey, a senior fellow in culture studies at
the Council has written an essay "Homosexual parents: placing children
at risk." Some of the points made in his essay are:
 | Many recent studies show that children in gay
and lesbian households fare no worse than those brought up in families
with two parents of opposite gender. But he believes that much of the
research is seriously flawed. It is often done by homosexuals who, he
feels, lack objectivity. Often, the sample size is small, no random
sampling is used, and the subjects are not anonymous. |
 | "Children raised in traditional families by a mother and father
are happier, healthier, and more successful than children raised in
non-traditional environments." It is unclear whether his description
of a "non-traditional environment" includes both same-sex
committed couples and single parents. |
 | Gay or lesbians who agree to be studied may be "biased toward
emphasizing the positive aspects of their relationships with their
children." |
 | There is a higher rate of sexual activity outside the relationship
among committed homosexual couples. |
 | There is a higher rate of verbal and physical violence by same-sex
committed couples than by opposite-sex married couples. |
 | Gays and lesbians have a higher rate of depression, substance abuse,
and suicide. Dailey did not indicate whether this was a natural result
of their sexual orientation, or whether it was caused by public abuse,
rejection, violence, and hatred of them because of their sexual
orientation. |
 | Homosexuals have a higher rate of STD. Unfortunately, Dailey
did not differentiate between gays and lesbians; gays have a much higher
rate of STDs than do heterosexuals; lesbians have a much lower rate.
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 | Male homosexuals have a reduced lifespan relative to male
heterosexuals. This could cause many adopted children in same-sex homes
to be orphaned at an early age. |
 | Dailey quotes a number of studies which show that children raised by
gays or lesbians more often engage in homosexual activity themselves. |
 | "Homosexual or lesbian households are no substitute for a family
[led by a mother and father]: Children also need both a mother and a
father." |

Book against same-sex parenting by The Christian Institute:
The Christian Institute of Newcastle-Upon-Tyne, UK, 3
has published many books on medical ethics, gambling, abortion access, equal
rights for gays and lesbians, etc., from a Fundamentalist Christian viewpoint.
One of their books, is by Particia Morgan -- a senior research fellow at the
Institute
for the Study of Civil Society and author of numerous books
on marriage and family. It is titled: "Children as Trophies."
4 After reviewing 144 academic papers worldwide on gay-lesbian
parenting, she concluded that the American Academy of
Pediatricians and many other social workers are wrong.
Colin Hart, director of The Christian Institute, said: "The overwhelming evidence is that
same-sex parenting is bad for kids. This book will come as
a devastating blow to those who think any combination of
adults can make good parents. The research is crystal clear:
children need a male and a female role model in a permanent
partnership."

References:
- Larry Burtoft, "Setting the Record Straight: What Research Really Says About the
Social Consequences of Homosexuality", Focus on the Family, Colorado Springs, CO,
(1994), pages 74 to 78
- "Breaking the ties that bind: The APA's assault on fatherhood," at:
http://www.frc.org/get/is99k2.cfm
- The Christian Institute's home page is at:
http://www.christian.org.uk/
- Particia Morgan, "Children as trophies? Examining the evidence on
same-sex parenting," The Christian Institute, (2002). The
book is not listed at Amazon.com, but can be ordered from the publisher at:
http://www.christian.org.uk/childrenastrophies.htm
- The Family Research Council's home page is at:
http://www.frc.org/
- Timothy J. Dailey, "Homosexual Parenting: Placing children at risk,"
at:
http://www.frc.org/get/is01j3.cfm
- "AAP says children of same-sex couples deserve two legally recognized
parents," American Academy of Pediatrics, News release, 2002-FEB-4, at:
http://www.aap.org/advocacy/archives/febsamesex.htm
- Ellen C. Perrin, MD, and the Committee on Psychosocial Aspects of Child
and Family Health, "Technical Report: Coparent or Second-Parent Adoption by
Same-Sex Parents," American Academy of Pediatrics, Pediatrics journal, Vol.
109, #2, 2002-FEB, Pages 341 to 344, at:
http://www.aap.org/policy/020008t.html


Copyright © 1998, 1999 & 2002 by Ontario Consultants on
Religious Tolerance
Date of last update: 2002-NOV-6
Author: B.A. Robinson


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