Harm caused by same-sex marriage (SSM)
According to some religious
and social conservatives
OneNewsNow is a division of the American Family News
Network, a fundamentalist Christian organization. They
frequently post questions to their website visitors, and report
the percentage of visitors for, against, and unsure each topic.
In early 2008-AUG, they posted the question:
"Because of developments in Massachusetts and
California on the issue of homosexual 'marriage,' is a federal
marriage amendment needed more now than ever?"
You may have noted that the pollsters enclosed the word "marriage" in
quotation marks. This is common practice among
social and conservative writers who wish to denigrate the
concept of same-sex marriage (SSM). The
implication is that a SSM by a loving, committed couple is not a "real"
The Federal Marriage Amendment
(FMA) was originally proposed as a stealth amendment to the U.S. Constitution
that would prevent any benefits normally given to married opposite-sex couples
from being also given either to same-sex
couples or to unmarried opposite-sex couples. It would also
define marriage as a union of one man and one woman. Later
versions of the FMA merely defined marriage across the nation to
prohibit SSM without attacking unmarried opposite-sex couples.
At the time of the poll, loving committed same-sex couples
who live anywhere in the U.S., and probably elsewhere, could
marry in either Massachusetts or California. Thereby, they picked up all of
the state's rights and obligations that in the past had been a
special privilege given only to opposite-sex couples. The same-sex couples are
not given the federal rights which accompany opposite-sex marriages, These
benefits total in excess of 1,100 privileges.
New Yorkers can even return get married in one of the few states that allow
SSM and, return to
their state of residency, and have their marriages recognized. Few if any of the
other states will extend recognition -- at least without a court battle.
As of 2008-AUG-03, the opinion of the 6,428 persons
responding to the OneNewsNow poll was:
||92.6% in favor of a Federal Marriage Amendment.
Support for the FMA is massively in excess of its actual
support among the American people. That is to be expected
because the poll was taken among those visitors to a
social/religiously conservative web site who most likely agreed
with the site's anti-gay viewpoints. Also, the question assumes that the FMA has been needed in the past. That would bias their visitors
in favor of answering "yes."
Poll comments left by voters:
Of particular interest were the 28 personal comments that voters
posted on the poll results page. The names and locations of
the posters were not listed. However, their comments seem
to have reflected their sincere and serious concerns. The copyright for
their comments remain with the posters themselves. Since they
were all relatively short, it is within copyright law for us to
quote them in full here.
The headings in bold were added by us. We also corrected
spelling and grammar to make the postings more legible.
God will send sexually active homosexuals to Hell to be tortured
for all eternity: "The
thing is, homosexuals are trying to change the thinking
of the main stream of the entire world. They are already
trying to make young children think that this kind of
behavior is perfectly fine, in order to increase their
backing and their future sexual prospects. They are
leading a large portion of the world's population to
hell with them. When they die, they will fall face first
into a burning lake made of fire that never goes out.
Satan and his demons are using this homosexual agenda to
take souls away from Christ. If we continue to tolerate
it, then we continue to tolerate the work of God's
Liberals in Congress would rather change marriage to be for
same-sex couples only: "I
believe a marriage amendment specifying that marriage
is between one man and one woman is necessary, however,
with the liberal congress now in power, I fear they
would make an amendment allowing the opposite instead.
So regrettably, I believe it would be safer to leave well
enough alone at the present time."
Same-sex couples are incapable of forming families either by
adoption or artificial insemination: "It's
a crying shame that it has come to this but I believe
that the time has come. I believe that marriage is a
sacred ceremony dedicating your life to your partner
through your vows. However, it applies to heterosexual
couples only, for the purpose of establishing family and
heritage rights and privileges that can only be achieved
by M/F marriage and is designed in the Bible by God for
the protection of these children's rights. It was not
designed to promote the sin of Sodomy. nor to promote
these "alternate lifestyles" that people try to invent
Allowing any same-sex couple to marry anywhere is personally
offensive: "I am
a Catholic and in my religion, marriage is one of 7
sacraments that we may receive in our lifetime. The 7
sacraments are highly revered by Catholics worldwide. I
feel very offended that same-sex marriage is accepted
anywhere in our nation."
FMA is needed to protect marriage at the state level: "For
years now James Dobson of Focus on the Family has been
urging a Federal Marriage Amendment. It has largely
fallen on deaf ears among our Senators and Congressmen.
They kept saying to leave it up to the states. The
states spoke up. Many of them have it in their constitutions and some of them don't. Some that don't
have laws about marriage between one man and one woman.
Those states are not protected fully. The rest of the
states are not protected at all. Even those who think
they are protected fully a panel of judges can come
along and change whatever they want against the will of
the people. Sen. Obama and Mrs. Pelosi have already said
if he reaches the Presidency they will overturn the DOMA
laws first thing. This must become a Federal Amendment.
No question about it."
God will no longer protect America: "I
think every thing possible should be done to protect the
marriage act. But realistically I feel America has stepped
so low in morals that God is lifting his hand from her.
Our churches are giving in to the homosexual's,
government and schools. Every Christian should drop to
their knees and repent and ask God to restore America.
November will really tell the story. If Obama is elected,
homosexuals will get their way and babies will be
aborted and left to die if born alive. If that happens
America is finished for certain."
Same-sex marriage is a cosmic battle between God and Satan:
"Folks, make no mistake, The Homosexual Movement and
Satan are 2 Pea's in a Pod. Neither want tolerance or
even acceptable recognition. Both want absolute
acceptance and total control. Period. It is the
Christians who have been complacent and stood on the
sidelines of the Spiritual Battle who are to blame for
the shape this country is in today! How many Christians
are still buying their kids Happy Meals at McDonalds
while McDonalds happily gives their money and support to
an organization and lifestyle that is determined to send
their kids to Hell? If you don't understand that
ultimately that is what all this is about - winning
souls to Christ or losing them to Satan - you are sadly
The Bible condemns homosexuality; Polygamy never existed in
biblica times: "To
those who voted NO or Unsure, I would like to what is
your reason for your decision. If we are making an
opinion on ANYTHING other than what God's word says we
are in the wrong. God loves the sinner but makes it very
clear that he hates the sin. He who created the world
has a reason why he makes these guidelines. It is for
our best interest. To those who do not know the Lord
they are in a position where I was at one time LOST. Let
the Lord come into your life and open your eyes to see.
You will be thankful that you did. How will you know if
you do not ask? Yes, to an amendment. Marriage has
always been since the beginning of time between a man
and a women and has worked rather well."
Allowing same-sex marriage will lead to adult-child marriages
and legalized pedophilia: "I
believe we must be diligent in the fight against
immorality in our society, because affects our family
stability. In two states there are people in charge who
are trying to change our society by changing the
marriage rules. The next step in this insanity will be
to lower the marriage age so evil men can marry and
molest children legally. I think we should vote on it
nationally by attaching the question to the presidential
election ballot and put an end to the disgusting
direction liberals and gays want to take our nation. By
the way, Christianity is not the only religion to oppose
Salvation by trusting Christ is the paramount need:
"Christ did not come to change outward behavior (through
government intervention), but to die so that people
could have a new heart; for if one's heart is changed to
Christ, his behavior will be changed as well. Instead of
focusing on changing behavior, we Christians should sink
ourselves into the people with whom we come in contact
so that they can come to know Christ and their hearts
can be changed."
If homosexuals trust Jesus they will become either heterosexuals
or celibate: "God
will give them over to their own desires. 1 Cor. 6:9
They need the blood of Jesus. Pray for them. God loves
the sinner but hates the sin."
FMA would be useless: "I do
not believe that an amendment will make any difference.
There are so many areas of the constitution that are now
ignored, what makes us think this one will be respected?
We need to be at work to change the attitudes of people
about marriage, starting with little children and in our
Political trickster: "We,
the voters of Indiana, had a Congressman John
Hostettler, who was very conservative, but he believed
that the federal government had no business in saying
what marriage was nor wasn't. He refused to back the
federal marriage amendment. For years, the Democrats
here in Indiana had been running liberal Democrats
against Hostettler and they lost big time. This past
election, the Dems saw their chance. They ran Brad
Ellsworth, a so-called "blue-dog" Democrat who was
supposed to be conservative on issues like marriage
between one man and one woman, against abortion, and
against homosexual "marriage." Well, we were duped. He
says one thing and then does another. He endorsed Barack
Obama for President, the most liberal candidate ever to
run for the presidency on the Democratic ticket. We will
remember you, Brad."
Same-sex marriage triggered by lack of prayer in schools: "This
whole thing is SO pathetic! Why should the sacred
institution of marriage (between 1 man and 1 woman) even
be in question? When did we blink, and suddenly have to
have a federal marriage amendment at all? It is our
fault (the Christians) for letting the gay agenda take
root, in the first place. We are the last ones to do
anything about a situation, but we are the ones who cry
the loudest when bad things happen. We all sat silently
by, while Madalyn Murray O'Hare, had prayer thrown out
of our schools, now look what is happening. Pray for our
country!!! Time is short, let's pray for the gay people,
that they will come to the Lord, before it's too late!"
We can protect traditional marriage, and must do this for the
sake of our descendents: "I
agree that it's hard to believe that we have come to
this state in America, but, YES, it's worth the effort.
We can stand and fight for righteousness for the sake of
our children and grandchildren and love people into the
Kingdom at the same time. Keeping quiet and putting our
stamp of approval on sinful and unhealthy lifestyles is
never the answer. The reason we're in this mess is that
evil flourishes when good people do nothing-and that's
what most good people have been doing for too
long -- nothing."
Media to blame; allowing same-sex marriage will hurt my family
we not see this coming? we support all the entertainment
featuring the alternate lifestyle and they have become
wealthy people and with enough power to overcome
objections of people who have political hopes and know
these people have money. I don't object to what they do
in their own homes but I don't want it shoved on my
family. We really haven't seen anything yet. Vote in
Homosexuality is a choice; we must win the SSM battle: "I
believe it is long overdue for Christians to start
recognizing that this is a fight we can win and must win
for the protection of everything that is precious to us.
This issue overflows to all aspects of our lives. We
need to stand up and say, "Enough is enough!" We need to
pray for these people who "believe" that they are born
as homosexuals. This is a choice. It's not a right, it's
not culture, it's not a religion. It is a choice. We
too, have a choice; do we do nothing and gripe about the
outcomes or do we stand against the tide, united with
our Heavenly Father to defeat this unjust issue and save
the innocence of our children? I say our children are
worth it, don't you? We need this marriage amendment and
we should be inundate our representatives to vote our
voice on this matter."
SSM is not important; helping persons in need is:
"What's really needed is someone to do God's work of
feeding the poor, taking care of homeless, especially
children and doing the things god specifically asked us
Don't attack homosexuality; attack fundamental problems: "Gay
marriage is only a symptom of a deeper ill in today's
America. We need to root out the illness, instead of
simply throwing new laws at the symptoms."
previous poster's alternative seems VERY worth pursuing.
If you think so as well, please write to your local
representatives about it (they all have e-mail
addresses, so it will only cost you a moment of time)."
God will punish, and perhaps exterminate, everyone who supports
marriage equality: "I
feel sorry for the lawmakers in congress who have gone
against God. Remember Madelyn O'Hare? And I am afraid of
God's wrath for California and Mass., remember Sodom and
Gomorrah? It's not a fairy tale."
FMA needed to combat tyranny: "Due
to tyrannical forces, we do need to change our
constitution to make it clear that marriage is between a
man and a woman."
SSM a positive influence: "Let
this issue go. Same sex-marriage can only stabilize
marriages and society. God has not wreaked havoc on MA,
CA, nor any of the progressive countries allowing
marriage equality for all. Look for real issues that
harm God's earth and let this one go."
Marriage under attack; God ordained traditional marriage:
definition of marriage is greatly under attack. How much
more will people come to realize that marriage needs to
be protected and is indeed therefore between one man
and one woman. How much more will the courts,
Massachusetts, and California continue to keep mocking
the foundation of marriage that God ordained."
God will punish gays; gays don't need the protection of
can't believe America has come to the situation we have
been facing constantly with the issue of gay people. If
they want to live together that's their business, but
this marriage situation is ridiculous. The risqué parades
they are having in S.F. and all the publicity about
gays is sickening to most people. God will punish these
Saving souls more important than fighting SSM: "I
wonder if it is worth the effort. I know that we need to
stand against evil and at the same time we might be
being drawn into a battle that will just use up our God
given resources and not gain anything for the kingdom of
God. Perhaps we should focus on spreading the Gospel and
loving folks into the Kingdom. Just a thought."
An alternative to the FMA: "If
it should appear that the votes are not there for such
an amendment, an alternate move which might have a
better chance of flying would be an amendment something,
in substance, like this: "Neither the full faith and
credit clause (Article IV, Section 1) of this
Constitution nor any law or treaty of the United States
of America shall be construed to require any state to
recognize, in any way, the marriage, civil union or
comparable union created by another jurisdiction or
government, whether foreign or domestic, when such
marriage, civil union or comparable union could not be
created or entered into in the state where recognition
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essay. The hyperlink is not necessarily still active today.
Reader poll on Federal Marriage Amendment, OneNewsNow, 2008-AUG, at:
Originally posted: 2008-AUG-03
Latest update: 2009-MAY-29