Exclusive faith groups -- those who believe that they alone have the full truth and that all other religions are devoid of truth -- tend to oppose these marriages.

Inclusive faith groups -- those who believe that they alone have the full truth but that some truth is present in other religions -- usually permit them.

Pluralistic faith groups -- those who feel that all religions are true when interpreted within their own cultural setting -- usually welcome them.

Assembly of God church - Pentecostal Christian: The Rev. Bruce Pajot, associate pastor at Calvary Temple, in Wayne felt "It's very, very unlikely for a longtime congregant to come to me with such a request. .... People in our congregation tend to be very clear on what it is to be a Christian"  He would counsel them in an effort to convert the non-Christian to a belief in Christianity. If this could not be achieved, he would "be reluctant to marry them," rather than set themselves up for serious problems in the future. In this case, conversion would probably have to be to conservative Christianity.

Baptist Church - Christian: The Rev. Edwin M. Brown, pastor of First Baptist Church of Ridgefield Park would only marry an inter-faith couple if both parties agreed with certain beliefs: e.g. the deity of Jesus, salvation through faith, resurrection, intercession of Jesus on their behalf, etc. He would hold "several counseling sessions to ensure compatibility before performing the ceremony." By implication, he would not marry an inter-faith couple, or even a conservative-liberal Christian couple.

Hindu religion: Pundit Ram Lall, senior spiritual leader of an Arya Samaj Hindu temple in Briarwood, N.Y. commented: "Hinduism does not preach race or religion. It's very broad. The Vedas are for all men and there should be no distinction between human and human." He would have no problems marrying an inter-faith couple; however, he would wish to speak with them first.

Interfaith: The Rev. June Schreiber, co-pastor and co-founder of SpiritWorks Interfaith Congregation, Oakland, NJ takes a positive approach. She commented: "The first thing I would do with any couple is find out why they want to commit and what they love about each other. Why have they chosen to be together? I think that's the foundation for any marriage. The second thing is to talk about the respect they have for each other as individuals. This would lead into a discussion of their different religions. Communication is the key to a successful relationship, so I would want to know if they had talked about the differences in their religions...If there's love, understanding, respect, and a willingness to bend, I think an interfaith relationship could be magic."

Islam: Mohammad Abbasi, Khatib is a lay minister at the Dar-Ul-Islah mosque in Teaneck. He commented: "A Muslim male is permitted to marry a person of the Book -- in other words, a Jew or Christian. The only objection to this would be if the woman he was marrying wasn't living up to the requirements of her own religion. To preserve the Muslim faith, a Muslim girl is not allowed to marry outside the religion." However, a non-Muslim male who wishes to marry a Muslim woman could proceed if he first sincerely converted to Islam. He added: "What's important to us is that...someone believes in God and can always be held accountable to something." This would imply that an Agnostic, Atheist, Buddhist or some Unitarian Universalist women might not be eligible to marry a Muslim man.

One traditional Muslim authority writes that "Islam considers the husband [to be the] head-of-the-family and therefore requires that a Muslim [woman] cannot marry a non-Muslim because she will [then] be under the authority of a non-Muslim husband." A Muslim man may marry a Christian, Jew or Muslim. But the woman must actively practice her religion. Otherwise, the marriage will be considered invalid. If a Muslim man agrees to allow some of his children to be raised as non-Muslims then he will be regarded as having abandoned Islam. If a man married to a Muslim woman converts to another religion, then the marriage is dissolved. ₅ Additional material is available on the Internet: _6,7

Judaism: Rabbi David Feldman of The Jewish Center of Teaneck, NJ is opposed to inter-faith marriages if one party is Jewish. He commented that "the future of the Jewish people is realized through in-marriage and not through out-marriage. This does indeed ask individuals to place Judaism's survival and viability above one's own romantic or personal considerations." He added that a Jew should marry someone "with whom a new [Jewish] household can be established on shared...values and tenets. This begins with a religious marriage ceremony that itself has sense and validity only if both partners share these religious assumptions."

Another source notes that "Judaism, so often described as a 'way of life,' is intimately bound up with domestic rituals...Many Jewish festivals take place as much in the home as they do in synagogue. It can be very difficult to maintain such Jewish practices when only one partner is of the faith. ₈

One commonly circulated figure is that 50% of all American Jews marry non-Jews. This is a matter of great concern to many in the faith.

Reform Church - Christian: The Rev. Dr. Katherine Ellison is part-time pastor at the Lakeview Heights Reformed Church in Clifton, NJ and Protestant chaplain at Montclair State University. She requires her marriage services to be Christian: "It couldn't be in my church, for instance, if they wanted the cross removed or if I couldn't say in 'Jesus' name' during the service." She comments that personality factors "will likely cause more problems than the couple's faith traditions."

Roman Catholic - Christian: Bishop Charles McDonnell of Holy Trinity Roman Catholic Church in Hackensack, NJ commented that the Church would have no difficulty marrying an eligible inter-faith couple, as long as the marriage was performed by a Catholic priest. Dispensation can usually be granted to hold the marriage ritual in another church, temple, mosque, etc. The priest usually asks "the Catholic party if they are willing to raise their children in the Catholic faith. If they are unsure about that, we discuss it further, and talk about what exactly they are planning to do."

Before the Second Vatican Council (1962-65), church rules for inter-faith couples were quite onerous. If they wished to be married in the Roman Catholic church, the non-Catholic partner had to agree in writing that they would have all of their children baptized and educated in the church. The non-Catholic's clergy could attend the wedding, but only as one of the wedding guests, not in any religious capacity. If the couple married outside the church, then their marriage was not recognized by the church. Also, the Catholic partner had to work for the religious conversion of their partner. ₉

One series of estimates, of unknown accuracy, is that 18 million (25%) of the Roman Catholics in the U.S. marry non-Catholics. The figure for Manitoba, Canada is 40%; for Britain it is 75%. ₁₀

Unitarian Universalist Association: The Rev. Tom Chulak, minister at the Unitarian-Universalist Congregation of the Palisades in Englewood, NJ commented: "I would be excited for the congregant, and set up a time to meet with the couple to discern if their relationship was strong enough for me to officiate at their wedding. I would want to know about the faith tradition that nurtured each of the partners... and how these differences would impact their marriage." The UUA is a religious organization without a creed; its members are expected to develop their own spiritual path, with the help of fellow U-Us. The Association and its members embrace many sources of religious expression, including Christianity, Judaism, Neopaganism, Eastern religions, Aboriginal religions, etc. Rev. Chulak said: "...we regularly perform interfaith marriages as celebrations of love, freedom, and commitment. We believe that diversity does not preclude unity. In fact, we believe that unity within diversity adds a richness and beauty to marriage and to life. Interfaith marriages can be challenging, but if love is present, the couple will find a way through."

The Bergen Recorder did not include a representative of an Orthodox church in their sampling of religious opinion. However, the Orthodox position is discussed on the Internet. ₁₁

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