The Pearls published the book in 1994. 1
It is frequently used by many conservative and sometime mainline Protestants. In
her article in Christian Century, reviewer Beth Felker Jones wrote:
"Spanking is nothing less than a mark of orthodoxy for followers of the
Pearls, who deem it an necessary means of dealing with sin. They insist that
parents who are faithful to Jesus need to hit their children."
"In folksy, friendly style, 'To Train Up a Child' offers techniques
that promise to yield happy and obedient children. This promise is a holy
grail to tired, frustrated and often isolated parents, who are told that
their anger will be eliminated when they follow techniques that produce
'immediately obedient' children. The book also appeals to parents' concern
for their reputation -- happy, obedient children will save Mom and Dad the
public embarrassment of having intractable children. It's a tempting
promise: perfect domestic peace, a kind of Martha Stewart flawlessness
reworked for Christian families."
"The Pearls compare children to stubborn animals: both have the same
predictable responses to unpleasant stimuli. The book advocates a consistent
behaviorism that involves switching a child's bare skin until the child's
will is broken. The result? A model child who is completely compliant: a
model parent who is a conqueror." 2
Children are prepared for "future, instant, unquestioning obedience."
The book's description on the Amazon.com web site states:
"These truths are not new, deep insights from the professional world of
research, rather, the same principles the Amish use to train their stubborn
mules, the same technique God uses to train his children."
The review also explained:
"This book is not about discipline, nor problem children. The emphasis is
on the training of a child before the need to discipline arises. It is
apparent that most parents never attempt to train a child to obey. They wait
until the child becomes unbearable and then explode. With proper training,
discipline can be reduced to 5% of what many now practice. As you come to
understand the difference between training and discipline, you will have a
renewed vision for your familyno more raised voices, no contention, no bad
attitudes, fewer spankings, a cheerful atmosphere in the home, and total
obedience from your children." 1
"A couple, stressed out with the conflict of three young children, after
spending the weekend with us and hearing some of these principles, changed
their strategy. One week later, they exclaimed, 'I can't believe it; we
went to a friend's house, and when I told my children to do something, they
immediately, without question, obeyed'."
Beth Felker Jones outlines the training techniques:
"The authors advocate tempting an infant by putting an appealing object
within reach and compare the object to the tree of knowledge in the Garden
of Eden. ... When the child reaches for the object, the parents lash the
child. The suggested switch for a four-month-old child is a branch 12 inches
long and an eighth of an inch wide. Rulers, belts and tree branches are
recommended for older children. In the Pearls' world, crystal bowls, other
breakable treasures and even loaded guns can be left around the house
because curious toddlers can be trained to 'complete and joyous
In most jurisdictions, the police take a very dim view of loaded guns left in
the open. All or essentially all child protective services would consider
whipping a 4 month-old infant a serious form of child abuse.
"The pursuit of flawless children is a cruel sort of domestic idolatry.
Children are a gift from God, not a battlefield. Yet the Pearls tell
parents: 'You hold an eternal soul in your hand.' In an
especially disturbing turn, they claim that corporal punishment will absolve
the guilt of sin for children who are not old enough to understand
The Pearls cite Proverbs 20:30 -- 'Blows that wound cleans away evil'
-- as justification for hurting a child. Ironically this text has
traditionally been read as a reference to the wounds of Christ -- not to any
human effort -- as the only means of cleansing." 2
'Giles Fraser, vicar of Putney, UK wrote about the
book in the British newspaper The Guardian:'
"... there remain those determined to turn back the clock. 'We are told
that in England it is a crime to spank children,' writes Debbi Pearl from
No Greater Joy Ministries, following a row that has erupted over the
distribution of their literature in the UK. 'Therefore Christians are not
able to openly obey God in regard to biblical chastisement. They are in
danger of having the state steal their children'." 3
"The Pearls are evangelical Christians who believe corporal punishment is
'doing it God's way.' With a mailing list of tens of thousands of parents,
the Pearls say that the justification for their approach is in scripture: 'He
that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him
"Chastening begins early. 'For the under-one-year-old, a little, 10-
to 12-inch long, willowy branch (stripped of any knots that might break the
skin) about one-eighth inch diameter is sufficient,' writes Michael
Pearl. With older children he advises: 'After a short explanation about
bad attitudes and the need to love, patiently and calmly apply the rod to
his backside. Somehow, after eight or 10 licks, the poison is transformed
into gushing love and contentment. The world becomes a beautiful place. A
brand-new child emerges. It makes an adult stare at the rod in wonder,
trying to see what magic is contained therein'."
"... as evangelicals, the Pearls believe that salvation only comes
through punishment and pain. God punishes his Son with crucifixion so that
humanity might not have to face the Father's anger. This image of God the
father, for whom violence is an expression of tough love, is lodged deep in
the evangelical imagination. And it twists a religion of forgiveness and
compassion into something dark and cruel."
Amazon.com customer reviews:
Amazon encourages its customers to write brief reviews of their books. The
ratings range from 1 star (the poorest rating) to 5 stars (the highest). As of
2007-MAY-12, there were 644 reviews. Almost all of the ratings were 1 star -- by
those who hated the book -- or 5 stars -- by those who loved it. The former were
far more numerous. The average rating was 2, an unusually low value.
"A boy in NC
died because his parents followed certain teachings of the Pearls. ...
Babies should not be hit. I'm sure they mean well, but this is not the only
way to 'Train' your children. If you are going to read it please do so
cautiously and prayerfully."
"I grieve for
any world where striking an infant, who is so wholly helpless and dependant
on their caregivers, is ever OK. Some people read the book and overlook
those most offensive bits, and others see nothing but those words."
watched so many children go wild. My wife and I read this book several years
ago and it has GREATLY helped us raise our children. We actually have
control of our children and they do what we say. Imagine that!! "
"... not often
in this current era do I find a text about child-rearing so completely and
utterly archaic and ridiculous. The Pearls do not hold any professional
qualifications to write child-rearing text or give anyone any advice about
how a child should be reared...oh, sorry,...trained (as in a dog or mule?)."
instructed to whip their infants daily for no reason to teach them
submissiveness from the very start of life. ... They encourage parents to
whip their children 10 times several times a day starting at 3 months old.
This makes me so sad and sick."
"In a society
where we raise spoiled, self-centered children and adults, I do not expect
this book to be well-received. ... When will America realize that we are
only hurting our children when we allow them to 'freely express' themselves.
That's why we have drug addicts, rampant teenage pregnancy, and endless
[To] those who
have children and have no understanding or desire to understand the real
needs and natural development of children, these people give you an easy
answer to how to discipline. Drill them with dog training-like commands, and
when that fails, hit them with a "rod." Don't worry, it's OK. It's
in the Old Testament." 1
'(Grammar spelling and punctuation corrected)'
About the authors:
According to Amazon.com:
"Michael Pearl has been a pastor, missionary, and
evangelist for 35 years. He and his wife Debi have 5 children, all homeschooled.
The children have grown up to become missionaries and church leaders. Though
holding a B.S. from Crighton College, when Michael is asked for his credentials
on child training he points to his five children." 1
Michael & Debi Pearl published "To Train Up a Child" in August 1994.
By mid 1999, over 250,000 copies were in print. Then the Pearls started
publishing the newsletter, "No Greater Joy," to address the many questions
received in the mail each day. Due to the demand for back-issues the newsletter
articles were then put in book form titled: "No Greater Joy" Three volumes were
published by 1999.